This has been an extremely difficult piece to write; because there are so many layers to this conversation, so many people I want to give a voice to and others I don’t want to offend.
But try as I may there’s not enough room to cover all the topics surrounding this subject and I concluded afraid that once again I’d be misunderstood.
By now I’m sure many of you have watched the short clip of Moesha on why she chooses to date married men.
For many of you, your immediate reaction was that of anger and disgust at the things she had to say, which is understandable if it’s a lifestyle that you’re unfamiliar with.
But for others there were no surprises there, she just exposed an ugly truth that we’ve tried so hard to hide.
And of course the outrage was felt all through social media, especially from hardworking women who felt her comments tainted their hard work. To be fair I do believe she spoke her truth, and even though it did come off as a generalization I wasn’t moved to anger because I didn’t think her reality reflected mine.
It was also an opportunity for those who’ve always attributed a woman’s success to the men in her life to reaffirm this position; and once again people called out any woman whose success they believed wasn’t through hard work.
It became a battle of – the women who worked hard for their money, and those who depended on men for it. The irony however was that up until then, I’d never heard so many people as vocal about hardworking women in Ghana, even though they always existed. So many names of women, who many had accused in the past for doing the very thing Moesha does, we’re suddenly being praised and used as the example to emulate.
Truth is, what Moesha did was open up a can of worms and force us to eat its contents- for years we’ve tip toed around this topic because it’s an uncomfortable one, mostly for the men and women engaged in it. But her interview had many people feeling exposed.
So now that the noise has come down, and we’re hopefully not in our feelings anymore, can we have an honest conversation about the realities Ghanaian women face?
And this reality isn’t limited to only Ghana, it’s something that happens in other parts of the world- which is why I can’t seem to get over the hypocritical snarl from Amanpour at some of the things Moesha had to say.
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